You Know The One That Broke Your Heart?

The one that you were willing to do almost anything for? So blind were you to any flaws you were convinced none existed! Remember when your judgement of character was so watered down, swimming in obscurity caused by those heady, high feelings? Yah, it can happen to the wisest, smartest people and it even happened to me.

Sometimes they are ‘the one that got away’.

Sometimes they are the one that tried to take everything away.

We can all get taken. Why? Because there are people out there who are cunning, manipulative, opportunists who feed off others. I call them Clingons without the K.

Is there a statute of limitations on when it’s safe to talk about those people?
Perhaps when the healing is completed and for me that was years ago, yet sometimes there’s a little reminder that they’re still out there, preying on another victim. Memories try to scratch at the scar hoping for a new infection but they only cause a minor irritation.

Please allow me to share what I learned from this life-sucking narcissist.
(Oh, I am over him, but not the name calling- we need to take what little joy we can? No?)

What I learned…
Children make snap judgements about people they meet. Want to know if the person you’re with is kind and good? Run them past a child. You’ll know immediately what they think.

My daughter hated this man.

He was very arrogant and cocky.
He cost me a fortune, (I was a single mom).
He had nothing and liked to live well.

It became evident when he let me go that he had taken what he needed to better his circumstances and would no longer require my services as his girlfriend.

I was stunned. How did I allow this to happen? I crashed and burned.

What I really learned…
We all want to believe the best in people. They know that. These narcissists are everywhere and they will continue to suck the life out of those around them as they better their station- no matter what the cost to their victim(s).

It was the one time I let my guard down and didn’t listen to my guts. Heads and hearts are easily swayed but guts never lie.

Want to know if you’re in a relationship with a good person. Bring in the kids and listen to your gut.

And to all those life-sucking narcissists out there? One day? The person you use? May not be a garden variety victim. They may want to expose you as the creep you are, and worse? They may have a blog.
A very public one.

Boy is that life-sucking narcissist lucky I’m not bitter.